It’s too long for a tweet so I’ll blog it. Love this quote from Jennifer Gilbert of The Trephine: “the movement toward friendly divorce is generally seen as blasphemous and culturally reckless, just like those hellbound liberals who keep offering free condoms to teenagers, which of course only encourages them.”
She suggests that the movement toward friendly divorce needs to get louder, as loud as the “anti-divorce movement”.
Read her whole thought-provoking post on Through the Fire: An ex-spouse is just a friend you haven’t met yet.
Oh, and I commented on it too:
Thanks Jen, for a very thoughtful post.
I agree that the friendly divorce movement needs to get louder, but I’m not sure how to do that beyond blogging (around which I have admittedly fallen off the wagon but am getting back to it!) Any ideas?
I relate to many of your experiences as I have a “friendly divorce” as well, but with small children. My ex and I live in the same house, co-parent, and spend family time together. That family time often includes extended family and my ex’s girlfriend (who cooked dinner for everyone last time my parents came to visit).
When I have a break-up or a bad date (and I have plenty) sometimes it’s my ex’s girlfriend who hears the gory details first.
Right now, while we are temporarily without a baby-sitter, the three of us are juggling getting the kids ready and off to camp on various days.
While I have some doubts about my own future love life and how many men I’m going to find who can understand or accept what we’re trying to do (putting our family first even after our break-up), I wouldn’t want to be divorced any other way.